By Dr John Anne
In very simple terms, premature ejaculation is defined as the condition when the man ejaculates too soon, that is, before the female partner - or indeed, he himself - has arrived at a sexual climax. When this happens, there is a lot of dissatisfaction from the sexual act, which could lead to frustrations and even issues between married partners. Statistics reveal that premature ejaculation is one of the most important sexual incompatibility causes for divorces in the world today.
There are two basic types of premature ejaculation. The first is primary premature ejaculation, where the man has suffered from premature ejaculation all through his life, i.e. he has never ejaculated after prolonged sex. The other type - what most men of the world are suffering from - is called secondary premature ejaculation. This is when the man ejaculates prematurely later in life due to some inner condition.
Though premature ejaculation occurs in men of most ages, young men are more prone to suffer from this disorder. The main cause behind this could be the inexperience of the young men indulging in sex. The excitement and the frenzy associated with the first few sexual encounters of a man's life can also cause the ejaculation to be premature. This is the reason why most women prefer older men. As men grow older, they learn better the tricks of self control. This makes them hold out better and let go only when they are sure their female partners have reached their own sexual climax.
In some cultures, premature ejaculation is more prevalent than in others. This is because of sexual taboos that children are made to grow up with. These young boys grow up thinking that masturbation is some kind of a dirty act. Hence, when they get the urge they may masturbate quickly in the bathroom or in some hidden place for fear of being found out. Naturally, they ejaculate too soon. This habit remains with them when they grow up, and they develop conditions of premature ejaculation.
The number of treatment methods available in the market purporting to be 'cures' for premature ejaculation is a good indicator of how widespread this condition is among men. Men believe that they come too soon to be satisfactory to their partners. The root cause behind this is pornographic films. Porn is responsible for perpetrating several myths about sex; and one among them are the thirty-odd minute long sessions of couples having sex. Though this is not unreal, the fact is that most couples would not stretch the actual penetrative act by more than a few minutes. As a result, a man watching a porn movie would find something lacking in the way he performs his sexual act.
Talking about cures for premature ejaculation, there is no real treatment for the issue. The reason behind this is that premature ejaculation is not a disease at all. Ejaculating before time can be controlled simply by exercising more mind play into the act. The squeeze technique is very effective in controlling premature ejaculation. This is done by masturbating the penis till the semen is just about to be released. At this time, the glans of the penis is squeezed in order to the stop the ejaculation. Masturbation is continued after the urge to ejaculate passes away. This process of masturbate - squeeze - masturbate again is repeated for a number of times. This method is also known to increase the bulk of the semen when it is finally reached.
There are some numbing creams that can be used for premature ejaculation. It must be noted that these creams are not treatments for premature ejaculation, but they are just tools used to delay the ejaculation. When these creams are applied, then the penis loses some of its sensation and hence the arousal can continue for a longer period of time.
Yoga is known to be one of the most effective methods of solving problems of premature ejaculation. There are several asanas which teach mind control, by which a man can prolong the pleasures he receives from sex. Methods to relieve the mind from stress are being very commonly applied by men today, and this has direct relation with the quest to find a solution to premature ejaculation. This explains why couples after marriage go to a secluded place for their honeymoons. Such places can help the couple to unwind, become more comfortable with each other and hence have a stress-free first sexual encounter. Doctors advocate men suffering from premature ejaculation to take their partners out on a vacation to a silent place. In most cases this has found to have great benefits in solving premature ejaculation problems.Finally, it must be remembered that premature ejaculation is something that is not a permanent condition. Every person ejaculates at different times during different sexual encounters, and hence what time period qualifies for premature ejaculation is a highly debatable topic. Most men may ejaculate under one minute some times and have a prolonged sexual session some other time. Hence, premature ejaculation is a highly relative issue.
